Negativity & It’s Lasting Effects

July 24, 2013  |  Deep Thoughts, Random

Once upon a time, a long time ago (not really but it was a while back) I was a negative person, always thinking that the world was out to get me, always hating the cards I’d been dealt with and made it my life mission to constantly be depressed and a pessimist, then something magical happened and I became this other person.  I became a person who was an optimist and tried to look at the brighter picture.


It might be something called “growing up” or it might be that I had a sudden jolt during a thunderstorm (in our case a dust storm) and I changed my outlook but it has helped a lot.

Yes life deals you some foul cards but it’s not the end of the world.  Yes there are rude people out there but it doesn’t mean you have to be one of them in order to get by, sometimes the nicest of people can get the most accomplished.

When I was diagnosed back in January and was informed that surgery was the only way for me to be healthy again I won’t lie to you, I freaked out and cried (a tiny bit) but once that was out of my system I looked at it as an opportunity to be more healthy, an opportunity to get rid of something so bad in my body that will most definitely ruin my life if left untreated.  And every doctor’s appointment since (check-ups that is) I just laugh it off and hope for the best.

They say laughter is what makes the heart young, I guess that means depression, negativity and sourness is what makes it old!

To all you negative people out there, I just want to tell you that there is a bright light at the end of the tunnel, you don’t have to think you are holier than thou and that you are the only one in this world who is dealt a bad card, some of you might have failed a class, might have been diagnosed with a serious illness, might have even lost a loved one by death or other means, might even have encountered other negative people… I just want to tell you that you don’t have to be all negative to get the attention you seem to crave.  Life is so much better when you smile, life is so much better when you appreciate it, life is so much better simply because its not life who is dealing you the bad cards and waiting for you to hit rock bottom its simply testing your resolve and seeing how you would rise from this one challenge.

Life is good, only if you paint it that way and make it seem that way.  Everyone has their own priorities and the stuff that would just turn it into hell but if you dwell on those you will simply miss out on living.  And remember all the negativity you have in your body will only push everyone around you away.  Out the door and they’d never look back!

We all suffer daily, some choose to move on with life and embrace it, while others simply choose to keep on suffering and paint themselves as the martyr in this chapter.

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  1. Very well said Jacks.

    • Thanks love, I just felt a need to mention it because yes we all deal with drama in our lives but if we make that drama actually our life then it’ll suck and we’ll say “Life Stinks” so let’s just get rid of negativity and say hello to being positive! :D

  2. aaahhh beeen there o el7mdellah the end of my tunnel was full of white bright light and you know what happened to me last year :)

    el7mdellah that you’re out of that phase :***

  3. You must work to keep your faith alive. You must have faith and experience in order to live life fully. You must have faith that all of the things you expect from life are possible for you. You must have faith that no matter what life brings you, you will be able to handle it. You must have faith that your faith will eventually lead to good experiences. Experience teaches you that your faith is paying off. Once you have had an experience, you know that you know. When you know, you become more faithful. Once you have an experience, it makes you want better or different experiences. The difference between faith and experience is this: One you must work on. The other one works on you.

  4. Well said (Y) … Sometimes it’s so easy to be rude & mean …. but it will accomplish nothing !!! It will not solve your problems and makes life easier. We must live everyday to improve ourselves in every aspect .. as Humans … that’s true living. Life is as good as we see it. xD sorry that was nearly a post :p

  5. I love this post … been there done that so many times .. emotionally and medically nothing was going right that Sometimes I thought it’s not Normal it might have been black magic or something .. but your right you need to get more optimistic and always have faith !

    Thanks for this post jacks

  6. Too right Jackui, well said. Just a shame that too many of the people around us often have the glass half full approach to life. It takes a lot of time & love to keep reminding others around us that we as individuals are the only ones that control our destiny’s.

    Always looking at the positivity in life is the only way for good karma to be drawn back to us time & again!

  7. I wish i can be a positive person but i can’t

    Because the “dunya””earth” is actually a bad place that all people are trying to turn it to be a paradise and all of us know that some day we gonna leave it so it’s smart and clever to be negative about dunya because only by this way you will not get trapped by hopes and future dreams.

    Just think after 100 years where we all going to be ? this is the true thinking we try to run away from!


  8. Very well said! And you do what you can with what you have and to do the best you can!

    You are a great person by the way and don’t think any other way about it!

    Being up beat about the way things are is the best way to go about it, even when things just plain suck! I’m happy that your surgery went very well!